The McCleary Quadruplets

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Sep 29 2012

Great Grandpa Tom

I am sure some of you are aware via facebook that my grandfather passed away last Friday.  He had been in the hospital for a few weeks prior to that and actually we were told was showing signs of improving and then Friday I received a phone call that he was crashing.  I rushed home so my mom could be at the hospital.  Just a few hours later I received a phone call that he had passed away.

Monday was the visitation and Tuesday was the funeral.  I took Elizabeth, Cameron, and Zachary with me to the visitation.  Randy stayed home with Matthew because he was not feeling well.  They actually did really well.  Tuesday Matthew was feeling much better so we all went.  The kids did really well.  I took books and coloring books to entertain them during the actual service.

If you have been wondering why my posts were lacking lately it was because I was not really in the mood to post.  It has been really hard, we were all close with my grandfather, even the kids.  Zachary’s middle name is Thomas after grandpa Tom.  One of the hardest parts of the whole situation was telling the kids that grandpa had gone to heaven.  They discussed how that makes us sad and we miss him.  Zachary has actually called heaven a few times and pretended to talk to grandpa Tom.  He say “I love you grandpa Tom and I miss you.  I hope you are having fun in heaven.”  Totally the sweetest thing I have ever heard.

We are hanging in and being very open with the kids about it, at least to the extent that they can understand.  It is going to be hard especially with the holidays coming up because I have spent every holiday with him and grandma since I can remember.  They have even made it a point to be at every important event for our kids.  I love my grandfather very much and will miss him, but know he is in a better place and no longer suffering.  I am just so thankful my children had the chance to know him.

at our wedding

Great Grandpa and Cameron enjoying a cookie

Grandpa Tom

The day the kids were baptized

McCleary clan and Great Grandpa and Great Grandma

Great Grandpa and Elizabeth

Great Grandpa and Cameron

If you would like to read his obituary here is the link.

http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dignity-memorial/obituary.aspx?n=Thomas-Spehar&lc=4019&pid=160040711&mid=5247742#.UF6NBwUAUlY.facebook

 

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3 comments

  1. Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckus

    Oh, Stephanie. I’m so sorry that you are having to deal with this loss. It’s obvious what an amazing and special man he has been to you and your family. Praying for you all!

  2. Capri + 3--Theresa

    I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Grandpa Tom (and the kids’ great Grandpa). Zachary’s phone calls to Heaven were really sweet—Reading that made me tear up.

  3. Stephanie

    Thanks for the prayer Rebecca. Theresa it makes me tear up every time he does it. This was a hard post to write, but thought it was important for me to write. Not only did it help me process it but he was important to our family and I feel I should address it for the kids. They loved him very much and I am so thankful they had the chance to get to know him.

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